i do.. .
how about you?.
om.
My non JW dad would use the letters BS and GD but never the words themselves in front of us kids. We weren't allowed to say "shut-up" when we were kids. However when I married my raised-in-the-cult JW husband I learned cuss words from him and his elder father I'd not heard before.
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..when you got baptised, and when you discovered the truth about the truth?.
me: 20 and 27.
Baptised at 20. Began researching at 54. That's when my mind began to be reopened.
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well this time last year i was waiting for my first semester at college to start.
i had no idea how i would do in my classes.
my first semester was a complete surprise for me because not only did i do it, but, i did it well ending up on the dean's list with a 3.57 gpa for the semester.
noni1974,
"I didn't connect my waiting for my life to be different with my experience as a JW and the old 'wait on Jehovah' thing until recently."
The indoctrination is hard to shake. Congratulations on making the break and your newfound confidence in yourself. It will serve you well.
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as if the other sept. 15th wt thread i started weren't controlling enough - in another study article titled " run ..... that you may attain it " were you aware that just eating and wearing clothes on your body - might be a " stumbling block " to you ?
in a prior article on pg.
12 , paragraph 6 the wt society sets up what they are trying to get across by stating, " people of the world tend to seek personal interests first as " men of this system of things, whose share is this life.
WHAT! Clothes can become a burden? What about the suits, ties, white shirts, and dark socks the brothers are REQUIRED to purchase and wear if they are to reach out for position? And sisters MUST wear dresses of a certain style and length. TotallyADD and I still have clothes in our closet that we would not have bought if it hadn't been for going to meetings and out in service. And don't forget the bookbags and the gas for our cars.
The "important Theocratic activities" are the real burden. We are so glad that weight has been lifted from our shoulders.
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may you all have peace!.
i would like to know something, if you will indulge me, please - thank you!
to what extent did you, as a jw... read/know the contents of the bible?
Shortly after we were married I noticed TotallyADD did not do personal study or read the Bible. When I asked him why, he replied, "I trust what they are telling me is right." I see now he was plagued with ADD and dylexia plus past physical abuses, not to mention the constant indoctrination of a mind control cult. When he became an elder he found himself so busy with providing for a young family, meetings, field service, talks, judicial committees, helping others in the congregation that it left little time for reading the Bible. Reading the Bible was just not that important in JW Land. In the halls we were in the Bible reading on the ministry school was usually assigned to a young brother learning to read. We did not have a family study, which bothered me for a long time.
When I saw this thread I asked TotallyADD again why he hadn't read the Bible through. His answer this time was that what he did read when he was younger was so scary that it brought up too many negative feelings. The parts that were emphasized at the meetings was the total destruction of the world at the big A. He was told by his father not to make any friends at school because they were all going to die. He didn't need to worry about school because Armageddon would be here before he would graduate. Don't get married, don't have children. Well we are grandparents now with no Armageddon in sight.
Now for me. I read the New World Translation from cover to cover while I was studying at the suggestion of my non JW aunt. It wasn't too hard to apply WT thinking to what I was reading. But sorry to say that was the last time I read the Bible from cover to cover. The Bible reading in the Ministry School doesn't count. When I began pioneering we were living with Totally's parents and I had a five year old and a one year old. Needless to say that left little time for anything other than required theocratic activities. Not that the Bible mattered. I can't remember being engaged in any scriptual conversations in field service. If I were to be honest I am sure that if scriptural questions were raised I would tell them to accept the latest magazine or book and that would answer their questions. Carrying the Reasoning book and referring to it gave us the false impression that we were using the Bible.
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i'm a long time lurker here.. i'm not and never have been a jw, but i am trying to get an understanding of what it means to be disfellowshipped for the sake of someone i know.. my husband and i pastor a small church, we're nothing special, just a group of people who get together to seek god.
we're open to everyone and people pop in as they want to.
recently a woman in her early twenties has started turning up.
Yr Wyddgrug,
You have come to the right place to find help and support for your friend. Welcome. My husband, TotallyADD, and I have recently exited the WT cult by moving 1000 miles from our old congregation. He was born into the cult while I converted before we were married. We raised two boys in the organization who now have given us four grandchildren. We were not disfellowshipped, just fading so we can still maintain contact with family. We do run the risk that if we are exposed we will be disfellowshipped. Then as you have found out we will lose all contact with family and friends we have established over the 40 years we have been Witnesses.
Your friend is very courageous to have talked let you in on her big secret. I assume from what you have said that she is disfellowshipped. Please encourage her to read on this site if she is not up to introducing herself yet. Many have lurked here for years before getting the courage to post, including myself. It really is comforting to realize others have gone through similar experiences and they are not alone.
Hugs to you and your friend. You don't know just how much she needs you at this time.
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i remember one time when i was about 17 years old, i wanted to arrange a costume party for the young brothers in the congo around my age.
i suggested it to one of my friends and was told that the elders had advised against it because it could be construed as pagan and masks have their roots in demonism.
of course, i was never shown any biblical proof of this but just that response took the wind out of my sails and i decided to just not go through with it.
Almost 30 years ago I was counseled for hanging my laundry out on a Sunday. We didn't want to offend the local Baptists who considered Sunday to be the "Lord's Day". At the time I had three children under 5 years of age, two of whom were in diapers and no dryer. Looking back we probably offended them for a lot of things like coming to their door unannounced on Saturday mornings to tell them they were wrong.
In the same congregation two elders showed up at our door to counsel us on me having my tubes tied after a second difficult birth. Besides that TotallyADD was out of work and we had had our car repossesed so they were convinced that we MUST HAVE A DEMON!!! Funny (pathetic funny) thing is many of the sisters of childbearing age had also had their tubes tied.
STUPID STUPID STUPID RULES!!!!
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so i am talking religion to my coworker and freely admit i used to be a jw.
he said thats interesting my wife grew up with some, and they are a weird set of people.
i agreed, explained about the holidays, which he knew and called it a day.
sinis,
This is so so sad, but unfortunately not that unusual within the WT ranks. I do not know how to put into words how I feel when I hear of a suicide due to depression brought on by sexual abuse. There is no recourse for getting help. I too have family members who were molested by a cult member. I know it happens outside the cult, but inside the cult the two witness rule, the denigration of women, the suspicion of psychologists, the overwhelming need to present a squeaky image keeps the abused from getting the help they need.
As Jamie said if that poor woman would have only known there was someone she could have reached out to for help.
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then allow a dog to share your life.
Mouthy,
You must have been posting while I was answering the others.
The hardest thing about owning an animal is saying good bye when they die. Some have died at home. Some I had to have put down because they were in such pain I couldn't bear to let them suffer any more.
You are such a character for teaching your bird such bad words! LOL
Truly some of our animals tug at our heartstrings more than the others.
I spoke so fondly of my first dog, the little poodle, that my DIL surprised me with a toy poodle in 2002. Sadly she was killed by a coyote two years later. So we went to an animal rescue organization and brought home a black lab. She is such a sweetheart. Shortly after that my other DIL gave me her poodle. The lab is TotallyADD's and the poodle is mine, well sort of---if either one of us leave they both look out the window for us.
So Mouthy, did you HOOK the woman into the cult? Sounds like she was a kindly lady with a soft spot for Mell. You never forget such kindnesses.
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then allow a dog to share your life.
Thank you all for your comments.
Nomad Soul: I feel sorry for you that you have not come to know love from animals. You must be willing to give unconditional love to get unconditional love.
Robdar: We raised our boys with dogs and cats too. They learned much from caring for pets.
Morbidzbaby:I had a hamster as a child. I agree, they can be interesting as well.
aSphereisnotaCircle: Saying animals are unclean is following the Mosaic Law which Jesus did away with. The GB is anti everything that takes away time from worshipping them.
Twitch: Caring for animals is a blessing. Helps us to be more compassionate toward fellow human beings.
dogisgod: I'm so happy you grew up with animals so you could be here to share with us on the forum. I hope you have some true friends now. Most of the "friends" in the organization are conditional. PM me and I will be your unconditional friend.
mummatron: All of our current animals are rescued too. Somehow they seem to know you reached out to them and seem to be more loyal and affectionate. Well maybe not the cats.
LV101: Owning a dog is truly a gift. Those who dislike animals don't know what they're missing. Then again I wouldn't want an irresponsible person to have any animal.
Lozhasleft: There is no truer companion than a dog. Daisy sounds like one terrific dog.
cult classic: That's quite a menagerie you were raised with.
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